Many times, there is this overwhelming pressure to quit in the face of challenges, failure, and disappointment. That feeling like you’ve reached your elastic limit and you are about to just break into a thousand pieces.
“Life happens” some may say, but the urge to carry on is vanquished. When you are exactly at that point when you think all hope is lost and you just can’t take it anymore.
Winners never quit and quitters never win.
Here are five (5) proven steps to employ that can help you get back on your feet again.
Learn from your Failure
Before you consider giving up, how about you sit and ponder deeply about what possibly went wrong. What didn’t you do right or why was your previous approach to that situation?
A careful analysis will open you up to a bigger picture where you must learn to see failure as a fresh opportunity to do it right. The fact that you failed doesn’t make you a failure, you just successfully discovered a new way to not do a thing.
Failures are stepping stones to success.
There’s that feeling of giving up when you first hit failure. Everything will tell you to quit. You have to build a resilient spirit to be able to forget ahead.
You will need a great level of inner motivation to propel you to move on. Failing or falling is not the problem, staying failed is a big problem. So its time to rise up, shake off the dust and forge ahead with faith.
Be optimistic and resilient in your approach to life. Tell yourself that you are made for more and so can’t be limited to failure. Drop the self-pity and take action. MOVE!
Don’t Dwell in your Past
Many claim to move on but in reality, the fear of their past still haunts them. So it’s not just enough to forge ahead but to have the ability to let go of your past.
Somehow the past has a way of manoeuvering its way to the present but you must NEVER let it cause its intent is to demoralize and weaken your resolve to make a difference.
If you engage your past, your future will be disorganized.
You must realize the fact that your past is in the past and so must remain there. And constantly dwelling on your past will definitely impede your progress. Your past should not define you, so forget about it.
Surround yourself with Meaningful People
The good company you keep will determine the outcome of your life. So surround yourself with good people and draw from their positive energy through their words of encouragement and constructive criticism that will help to push you closer to your goals.
Avoid those who tend to diminish your value through the negative vibes they exude. Stay clear of those who never see anything good in you but only specialize in criticizing you without providing a corresponding remedy. They only succeed in compounding problems and will never give you room to grow.
Learn the art of goal setting. Never underestimate the power of goals as they not only keep you active but helps you become focused.
You must learn to set smaller and immediate goals, but be careful not to downplay your abilities or underset goals.
Set goals that will stretch you but not break you. And to get the best from goal setting, you have to break them down to smaller targets that will lead you faster to achieve your goals.
Make it a duty to have a workable list, aside from your big list, it’s preferable you get a to-do list with which you can be able to smash those goals steadily. For example, if you have a book to write in a month in your big list, you can break that down in your to-do list by setting a target to write a chapter per day. This breaks the big task of writing a book to the achievable daily target of a chapter.
Also, set your target time and learn to analyze your progress at the end of the day, week, or month to ensure you are still on track. Your little successes will be a great motivation that will propel you to make progress.