The best moments of our lives are the ones we share with someone we love. The beautiful happy memories, the wonderful time spent with each other, and all of that can be so exciting. But then, so much togetherness could ruin everything.
Is it Okay to need some space from your significant other?
As Bustle.com points out:
“Even in the most madly in love couples need space sometimes. Alone time gives us the opportunity to focus on ourselves as well as explore our other interests, our relationship with our friends and family and room to grow.”
What are the Benefits of Needing Space in a Relationship?
Needing space (emotional and physical) is completely healthy in a relationship as it refreshes, strengthens, and fosters love and a sense of independence. We’ve seen some couples who miss their freedom as their significant spouse wants to know what she’s doing every minute. That could be toxic to a relationship.
“Not only is it okay to need some space, but it is also necessary for our psychological wellbeing; it is one thing to be madly in love with your spouse, however, it is necessary for women to maintain their own independence, have their own interest and have their own time in a marriage”, says Diann Valentine.
According to Jillian Michaels, “Yes, there is such a thing as the opposite attracts; being too similar, mashed and living for each other.” However, she thinks it’s dysfunctional and could cause problems. She believes there’s a balance and the balance is two parallel separate lives, but moving in a parallel direction.
Creating space in a relationship gives couples some time to miss each other and you have something to look forward to, says Nafessa Williams. That is why it is widely believed that marriage is not a cure for loneliness. There would always be time as a couple that we would be lonely.
It is very Okay spending quality time together as couples in a relationship, but it is also Okay giving some space. You can’t lose yourself in a relationship. You gotta have some time for yourself else, you’re going to miss “you”. Having some space and being by yourself, give you the opportunity to think and collect your thoughts together, and re-assess your priorities individually.
Some Advice on Needing Space from your Partner
“If you ever have to feel responsible for your spouse happiness, it is a toxic relationship”, says Harvey Steve.
You cannot be important to your spouse all the time, else it would become suffocating. It’s completely natural and okay to have some space. Needing space doesn’t mean you don’t love your spouse as it preserves your individual identity as couples and make you both refreshed and refocused. Having space shouldn’t make you lonely; it should give room for growth and closeness.
However, we must understand our spouse very well before asking for space so they don’t read a different meaning to it. Asking space from your spouse can be difficult for many. Sometimes, the fear of losing your partner in the process may set in or finding the exact words to use.
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