Many of you hurt your wives in the name of correcting them. You speak harshly; your approach should be actually in love than doing it rashly and these can be very brutal. Lots of women are living their lives in animosity and anger due to the careless ways actually treated by their husbands have been treating to them over time.
Here below are useful tips that you will be able to precisely correct your wife in love without hurting or humiliating her:
1. Correct Her in Love
Correcting your wife should be done in love and not in anger. Correcting her is not to make to feel less or horrible. It’s meant to make her see reason why whatever she did was wrong. Never you correct you wife in anger; else, correcting her without love would result into criticism and condemnation. Many may see it as constructive criticism but it actually means disapproval by pinpointing out errors and mistakes. Correction is the act of offering better options to mistakes.
There is actually a distinction between Correction and Criticism.
Husband A says,
“What manner of food is this? Is this popcorn or fried rice?
…how I wish I married a more sensible wife with better home training and who can cook better.”
Husband B says,
“Honey, this rice taste salty and dry unlike the one you made yesterday. I think the salt level should be reduced any other time because of our health.”
Husband A Criticized; while Husband B Corrected his wife in love.
Stop criticizing your wife; Correct her in love!
2. Do it with a Lower Tone
Just as pointed out in the Bible, “A soft answer turneth away wrath.” So also, a soft reprove turneth away wrath. Never you shout at your wife for whatever reason. She is not your house help or driver. She is your wife and better half; the mother of your Kids. Correct her with a calm tone in love.
3. Don’t Correct her in the Presence of the Kids.
Avoid correcting your wife in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your wife before your children will make them disrespect her. Children are very smart and sensitive. They know when the home isn’t okay at home. Your Kids (sons) seeing you as their father belittle their mother in the presence would make them disregards their wives when they grow up. Always treat your wife as a Queen before your children. Your Kids would treat their wives with same respect you treat your wife.
4. Never you Correct Her in Public
Never you correct your wife in the public, it does not portray you as a gentleman and It kills her self-esteem. Women have a pride to keep and dignity to maintain. Whatever correction you want to make must be done privately and with love so she don’t have to lose her prestige in the process. She is your wife. Give her the respect she deserves!
5. Never you Compare your Wife
In your thought of correcting her, you might have been comparing her with another woman. You may be tempted to say something like:
“Don’t you see what your friend is doing?”
“Can’t you learn from our neighbour’s wife?”
“I think you should borrow a leaf from Deaconess Mary”
This is very wrong! No woman loves to be compared with another woman. So stop it!
6. Avoid Bringing up Past Issues/Mistakes
Avoid referring to past issues that you both have discussed and settled. There may be tendencies to bring up past issues but you must resist that urge. Always stick to the present issues, deal with it, handle it as adults and move on.
7. Do it at the Right Time
Timing is everything!
Most husbands make the mistake of wanting to correct in the heat of anger, at the height of misunderstanding or when temper of has wives has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct her. Correcting at when she is still angry and mad will only yield little or no result. Give her sometime and probably correct her after she have come to her senses. She’ll be listen to you more when calm than when angry.
8. Lead by Example
The best way to correct her is to lead by example. Step into the kitchen to give a helping hand and don’t just sit in front of the television. Instead of complaining about her inadequacy and correcting without considering what she goes through, walk straight to the kitchen and get it done.
Wives are doing a great job! Learn to appreciate your wife instead of complaining and support her to be a better wife and good mother to your children.