In many cultures, it is customary to think of marriage as joining two families to one. The husband represents his family of origin, the wife represents hers and together all their relatives become one big happy family. As common as this mentality may be in many places, it is incorrect because marriage does not combine two families into one, but rather creates a third family.
When a husband and wife come together, they form a distinct, separate, complete and individual family unit that is independent of their respective families of origin. In other words, when a man and a woman come together in wedlock from two separate families they form a third family separate from the other two families. The family really emphasizes on the man because he will be the head of the new family and decision-making unit established by this marriage.
A quick way to conflict in marriage is when a husband has to compete with his wife’s parents for priority of relationship. The same is true for a wife whose husband has trouble cutting ties. Therefore, leaving home is a fundamental principle of marriage. Although the main thought is that of leaving home, there is more to the idea than just the physical departure.
After marriage, the man and his wife leave their families of origin not just physically, but also mentally, financially and emotionally. This does not mean they must sever all future connections with their families, but that their families should not play any significant role in decisions they make as a couple in their home.
Leaving in marriage means a married couple is neither burdened by nor a burden to their parent.
The word leave implies that the family of origin may or may not want them to go. Many parents struggle with this very thing, finding it very hard to let go of their children and live their own lives as independently.
Many young people don’t leave home till they get their parents’ consent. Although in some part of the world, it’s not a requirement and they believe there’s nothing absolutely nothing wrong with it but, leaving home with your parents’ blessings always come with a nice feeling, though some believe that it’s also okay to leave without it. Parental consent is key and biblical in marriage.
In most part of the world today, many believe that adult children are not under the tutelage of their parents and are therefore free or old enough to make their own decisions, including marital decisions. Going by the Holy books command (the Bible) on children to Obey and Honour their parents, it’s therefore required that children obey every instruction and advice given them by their parent (even on marriage).
If your parents are opposed to your choice (fiancé) in marriage for whatever reason(s), then it’s expected that you listen very closely to what they have to say. The Bible does not approve of anyone disobeying their parents.
In summary, after marriage, couples leave their families physically, mentally, financially and emotionally. However, this does not insinuate that they sever all future connections with their families, rather, they must maintain quality connections with their households, and loved ones.