“Oh yeah, Why not?”
We’ve done things in our pasts as Parents that our kids don’t need to know about. We don’t need to tell them because they aren’t necessary. As a matter of fact, it’s best they don’t find out because every parent would want to raise their kids better than the way they were raised. You’ll want them to have better opportunities than you had and you wouldn’t want them to step into the same traps that you stepped into.
Sometimes, it may be necessary to tell them of some traps and experiences you had in the past just in a way to correct them or teach them a lesson or two. However, it’s not just best to tell them all the time because Kids may use these information against us as they can sometimes be manipulative. You don’t want to hear stuffs like:
“But hey Dad, you did it when you were my age…“
Kids oftentimes ask their parent stuff just to get a glimpse of where they are. You may hear them ask you questions like:
“Dad, did you ever sneak out of the house before?“
“How many girl friends did you had in high school, Dad?
“Mom, did you ever cheat on your home work?“
Our reply to these should be “No” even when we know we had done these things sneaked sometimes ago while we were growing up as parents. Why should we lie to them, because they don’t need to know that.
As much as we try to be as honest to our kids as possible, there are things we must kept from our kids else, they’ll someday use it against us.
We must therefore, groom our kids and inculcate them with the right values. Teach them to:
- Treat others with kindness and respect
- Be honest
- Work hard and be diligent
- To much TV is bad
- Abstain from alcohol
- Avoid procrastination
- Be financially responsible
- Fear and Reverence God.
“Lying” to your Kids in this context may not necessarily meaning we are deceptive. It is what I’ll like to refer to as “White Lie” or withholding information. It’s also technically called “Lying by Omission“.
So, we must realize the Millennial Kids of today are manipulative and wiser. There are certain information we must keep from them in the strategy of grooming them to become a better version of ourselves and great men and women we all hope them to become someday.